I have a lot of respect for what he is doing. I agree with him that quite a bit of American society is touch-deprived. Somehow we got touch and sexuality and predatory behavior mixed up as if it is all the same stuff. Reid sorts it out in his cuddle parties. He has formulated some excellent rules, and I appreciate the care that he and other Cuddle Party facilitators take in bringing participants into a conscious space using the rules. Here they are:
[Bracketed comments are mine.]
Rule # 1 - Pajamas stay on the whole time. [Prevents "oops!" and creates safety.]
Rule # 2 - You don't have to cuddle anyone at a Cuddle Party, ever. [Re-educates people that they don't need to give in to social pressure or expectation.]
Rule # 3 - You must ask permission and receive a verbal YES before you touch anyone. (Be as specific in your request as you can.) [Takes all the guesswork and mischief out of touch.]
Rule # 4 - If you're a Yes to a request, say YES. If you're a No, say NO. [Instructs people to line up their feelings and their word.]
Rule # 5 - If you're a Maybe, say NO. [Clears up the gray area and creates safety.]
Rule # 6 - You are encouraged to change your mind. [Encourages exploratory play.]
Rule # 7 - Respect your relationship boundaries and communicate with your partner. [Creates safety in established relationships.]
Rule # 8 - Come get the Cuddle Caddy or ME if there's a concern, problem, or should you feel unsafe or need assistance with anything today. [Handles anything questionable or unforeseen.]
Rule # 9 - Tears and laughter are both welcome. [Encourages authentic expression of emotion.]
Rule # 10 - Respect people's privacy when sharing about Cuddle Parties and do not gossip. [Creates safety.]
Rule #11 - Keep the Cuddle Space Tidy [Contributes to consciousness and safety.]
Rule #12 - Thank you for arriving on time. [Acknowledges peoples fundamental integrity.]
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