Ejaculation Issues

In recent weeks, a number of men have written to me with varied concerns regarding ejaculation. In the world of tantra, there are varied opinions and techniques. I will do my best to address the concerns presented.

The first general concern would be one of premature ejaculation. The guy wants to know how to last longer. There are a number of tantric techniques to deal with this, however it needs to be said that the purpose of these techniques is not just delaying ejaculation, but rather to gain first Ejaculatory Choice and later Ejaculatory Mastery where orgasm and ejaculation are recognized as separate experiences and semen can be retained as a general practice and emitted only occasionally.

The first technique I recommend is to practice the Transmutation Breath. Here's how:

• Practice while self-pleasuring (without a partner).
• Tighten the muscles of the pelvic floor. (the ones you use to hold pee and poop until you can get to the bathroom)
• Inhale feeling the sexual energy rise up to the top of your head.
• Release the muscles of the pelvic floor and say the following sounds out loud so you can feel the vibration.

• 1/3 "Eeeeeee" feeling the vibration between your eybrows
• 1/3 "Ahhhhhh" feeling the vibration in the heart region
• 1/3 "Ohhhhhh" feeling the vibration in the solar plexus

• For starters, try to do this three times in a row without going over the edge.
• A little more advanced, do it 10 times and then halt self-pleasuring for an hour.
• What we are doing is starting to retrain the body to direct sex energy up the spine and then to distribute it to the head, heart and power centers rather than out the penis.

The second technique is to be used during lovemaking. It is a good idea to discuss this with one's partner beforehand, since many women have issues of sexual self-worth tied to whether or not they can pull the semen out of their partner and may be confused when a man breaks the rhythm to practice retention. Simply, this technique is to halt, squeeze and release.

• When lovemaking and approaching the "point of no return" stop all motion. Possibly even withdraw out of the vagina
  
• Take a breath, hold it, and tighten every muscle in the body.
• Release both the muscle tension and the breath.
• Resume lovemaking
  

A man may find that he temporarily loses his erection when he does this. This is because the act of tightening all the muscles throughout the body actually draws blood away from the genitals.

These two techniques, although fairly effective, are only the tip of the tantric iceberg. Future installments will go into more depth.